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THE FIRST WOMAN, AND HER ANTEDILUVIAN DESCENDANTS-1
THE FIRST WOMAN, AND HER ANTEDILUVIAN DESCENDANTS-2
THE FIRST WOMAN, AND HER ANTEDILUVIAN DESCENDANTS-3
THE FIRST WOMAN, AND HER ANTEDILUVIAN DESCENDANTS-4
THE FIRST WOMAN, AND HER ANTEDILUVIAN DESCENDANTS-5
THE FIRST WOMAN, AND HER ANTEDILUVIAN DESCENDANTS-6
THE FIRST WOMAN, AND HER ANTEDILUVIAN DESCENDANTS-7
DEGREES OF SENTIMENTAL ATTACHMENT AT DIFFERENT PERIODS-8
A VIEW OF MATRIMONY IN THREE DIFFERENT LIGHTS
FEMALE FRIENDSHIP
A LETTER TO A NEW MARRIED MAN
ITALIAN DEBAUCHERY
CUSTOM IN THE MOGUL EMPIRE
ANECDOTE OF CAESAR
POWER OF PHILTRES AND CHARMS
LAPLAND AND GREENLAND LADY
ART OF DETERMINING THE PRECISE FIGURE, THE DEGREE OF BEAUTY,THE HABITS, AND THE AGE, OF WOMEN, NOTWITHSTANDING THE AIDS AND DISGUISES OF DRESS
THE IDEAL OF FEMALE BEAUTY; OR A DESCRIPTION OF THE FAMOUS STATUE OF THE VENUS DE MEDICI
AN ESSAY ON MATRIMONY-1
AN ESSAY ON MATRIMONY-2
Three Contributions to the Theory of Sex. PREFACE
THE SEXUAL ABERRATIONS-1.1
DEVIATION IN REFERENCE TO THE SEXUAL AIM-1.2
GENERAL STATEMENTS APPLICABLE TO ALL PERVERSIONS-1.3
PARTIAL IMPULSES AND EROGENOUS ZONES-1.4
THE INFANTILE SEXUALITY-2.1
THE SEXUAL AIM OF THE INFANTILE SEXUALITY-2.2
THE INFANTILE SEXUAL INVESTIGATION-2.3
THE SOURCES OF THE INFANTILE SEXUALITY-2.4
THE TRANSFORMATION OF PUBERTY-3
THE THEORY OF THE LIBIDO-3.1
SUMMARY-3.2
SUMMARY-3.3
INDEX-1
INDEX-2
INDEX-3

 

 

A LETTER TO A NEW MARRIED MAN. 

 

I received the news of your marriage with infinite delight, and hope 

that the sincerity with which I wish you happiness, may excuse the 

liberty I take in giving you a few rules, whereby more certainly to 

obtain it. I see you smile at my wrong-headed kindness, and, reflecting 

on the charms of your bride, cry out in a rapture, that you are happy 

enough without any rules. I know you are. But after one of the forty 

years, which I hope you will pass pleasingly together, is over, this 

letter may come in turn, and rules for felicity may not be found 

unnecessary, however some of them may appear impracticable. 

 

Could that kind of love be kept alive through the marriage state, which 

makes the charm of a single one, the sovereign good would no longer be 

sought for; in the union of two faithful lovers it would be found: but 

reason shows that this is impossible, and experience informs us that it 

never was so; we must preserve it as long, and supply it as happily as 

we can. 

 

When your present violence of passion subsides, however, and a more cool 

and tranquil affection takes its place, be not hasty to censure yourself 

as indifferent, or to lament yourself as unhappy; you have lost that 

only which it was impossible to retain, and it were graceless amid the 

pleasures of a prosperous summer to regret the blossoms of a transient 

spring. Neither unwarily condemn your bride's insipidity till you have 

recollected that no object however sublime, no sounds however charming, 

can continue to transport us with delight when they no longer strike us 

with novelty. The skill to renovate the powers of pleasing is said 

indeed to be possessed by some women in an eminent degree; but the 

artifices of maturity are seldom seen to adorn the innocence of youth: 

you have made your choice, and ought to approve it. 

 

Satiety follows quickly upon the heels of possession; and to be happy, 

we must always have something in view. The person of your lady is 

already all your own, and will not grow more pleasing in your eyes I 

doubt, though the rest of your sex will think her handsome for these 

dozen of years. Turn therefore all your attention to her mind, which 

will daily grow brighter by polishing. Study some easy science together, 

and acquire a similarity of tastes while you enjoy a community of 

pleasures. You will by this means have many images in common, and be 

freed from the necessity of separating to find amusement. Nothing is so 

dangerous to wedded love as the possibility of either being happy out of 

the company of the other: endeavor therefore, to cement the present 


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